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- Tina Smith
- Mar 31
- 2 min read
In leadership, trust is often treated as something we owe automatically rather than something we steward wisely. There is an unspoken assumption that leaders must trust unconditionally until someone proves otherwise.
While that idea may sound faithful, it is not always wise.The truth is that trusting someone with your ministry, business, or team carries real responsibility. Trust is not built on intention alone. It is formed over time, through consistency, and the moments when adversity, misunderstanding, or failure enters the relationship.
Character & Fruit
Scripture reminds us, โYou will recognize them by their fruitโ (Matthew 7:16).
Fruit is not revealed only in seasons of ease. It is shown when pressure is present.
Character is not proven when everything is going well. Character is revealed in how someone responds when things are difficult, when they are corrected, when they make mistakes, and when disappointment or tension arises. Failure does not disqualify character. How failure is handled reveals it.
Trust and character cannot be separated. You cannot have one without the other. This does not mean expecting perfection from people. It means paying attention to humility, ownership, and the ability to remain relational when things feel uncomfortable.
As leaders, we fail. We grow. We learn. The same is true for the people on our teams. The difference is not whether mistakes happen, but how someone walks with you through them. How they respond when trust is tested matters.
Trust is a process. It is built slowly through consistency, integrity, and shared experience, even through failure. Taking time to trust is not fear. It is wisdom.
Hurt People Trust Too Quickly
Years ago, I expected to be trusted quickly. After a long season of intentional healing, I came to understand something different. Leaders who have been hurt often trust too quickly, open themselves too quickly, or ignore early signals in the name of being gracious. The cost of misplaced trust can be an entire ministry, organization, or calling.
Leadership requires stewardship. You are carrying people, vision, responsibility, and legacy. Scripture tells us, โTrust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make straight your pathsโ (Proverbs 3:5โ6).
Trusting God does not mean bypassing discernment. It means letting Him guide how and when trust is formed.
Trust patterns matter for women in leadership. Choose wisely. Choose slowly. Choose with discernment.
If you find yourself doubting your ability to discern whom to trust, that does not mean you are failing. It may simply mean you need a grounded, wise voice to help you navigate relational complexity without fear or self-doubt.
TheraCoaching Invitation
If you are a woman leading a business, ministry, or organization and discerning who to trust feels heavy or unclear, you do not have to navigate that alone. Trust is built with wisdom, time, and clarity. When you need a grounded voice to help you discern alignment, character, and relational direction, I am here to walk with you.
Tina Smith
Author | Mentor | Supervisor | Mediator-in-Training | International Coach | Director | Founder of Selah Treatment Center
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